I am a mean friend.
There. I said it. And you know what? I’m not ashamed.
Just yesterday, I was talking with a group of girls when one of them shared about why they weren’t doing Bible in a year. Now, I’m not some religious nut who thinks everyone needs to do it. But her excuses for not doing it were lame.
So I told her so. Actually, I specifically called her a sluggard. Okay, I might have even pointed at her and yelled it for all of Starbucks to hear.
And you know what? I was right. More importantly, she knew it.
We all needs friends like that. We all need to be friends like that. Something that sets us apart as tough, kick butt girls is that we tell it like it is. We point out the truth with confidence and gusto, knowing it might rub someone the wrong way, but knowing that sometimes you need to get rubbed the wrong way.
Call it tough love. Call it honesty. We may not like it all the time but, when we really think about it, we know it’s something we need and it’s something we need to do.
“Have I then become your enemy by telling you the truth?” – Galatians 4:16
“Better is an open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” – Proverbs 27:5-6
You need mean friends. You need to be a mean friend. It’s the nicest, kindest, godliest thing you can do.
Question: When have you had a friend speak a hard truth to you in love? Have you ever done the same thing to a friend? Do you have a friend right now who needs to hear some hard truth from you? How can you share in a loving way?