If I were to go to your school or your work place and ask people what they think about you, what would they say?
“She’s so nice!”
“She always seems too busy to talk to me.”
“What a sweet girl! She’s so thoughtful.”
“I don’t think she likes me.”
“We used to be close, but not anymore.”
“Who are you talking about?”
Like it or not, you have a reputation. And, like it or not, you have done things to deserve that reputation. And one of your biggest reputation builders/destroyers is the kind of friend you are.
Are you faithful? Patient? Forgiving? Long-suffering? Thoughtful? Generous?
Are you flaky? Inconsistent? Moody? Exclusive? Spread so thing that you can’t give fully to anyone?
The book of Proverbs has so much to say on the topic of friendship. Here are just a couple of verses:
“A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisper separates close friends.” – Proverbs 16:28
-Are you a gossipy type friend? Do you repeat things you shouldn’t? Do people feel like they can trust you?
“Whoever covers and offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.” – Proverbs 17:9
-Are you forgiving? Or are you known for holding a grudge and painting people in a bad light?
“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” – Proverbs 17:17
-Are you there for your friends, no matter what? Do you go out of your way to support them and love them when they need it?
“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” – Proverbs 18:24
-Are you faithful? Can you be counted on no matter what? Or are you too busy and spread thin to be a good friend?
“Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man.” – Proverbs 22:24
-Do you have a temper? Are friends afraid to be real with you because they fear your reaction?
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” – Proverbs 27:6
-Are you willing to speak the truth in love? Would you confront a friend on something hard and stick by their side as they figure things out?
“Do not forsake your friend and your father’s friend…” – Proverbs 27:10
-Do you go through friends like a pack of gum? Have you had a new “best friend” every year?
Friends are precious. Too often we get caught up in what they do for us instead of thinking about what we can give to them.
Question: What kind of friend would people say you are? Are there friends you have hurt in the past that you need to apologize to and seek reconciliation with? Are there friends in your life now that you can be a better friend to?